When I came home from Guatemala, I started playing a lot of tennis. The ball can’t bounce twice or land outside the lines, but there are also “rules” in the sense of guidelines for where to be and when. The beautiful part of the game is finding these patterns and then breaking them; if someone is really aggressive at the net, shoot down-the-line. The creativity and connection on the tennis court are pronounced, but all of life’s beauty reflects a tennis game. We collect data on a system then stretch and play with what we know to be “right” and ordinary.
My friend Maggie is pursuing a professional career in comedy. She plays with dichotomies and controversies, which look a little different in Guatemala. After I ate a plate of food, my coworkers would joke “wow, she was really hungry.” From their point of view, women don’t eat that much and pinpointing that abnormality is humorous. Maggie, on the other hand, would make jokes about the family of four riding a motorcycle or sixteen kids on the back of a pickup truck. We’ve been taught that those things are irresponsible and dangerous, but not a single Guatemalan would blink an eye at it.
My friend Jess is a writer who pushes the boundaries of words. In Guatemala, the nickname your family gives you is the physical attribute that sets you apart: gordita – little fatty, chino – Chinese face, colocha – curly head. If you called your neighbor “little fatty” in the United States, a restraining order might await you, but in Guatemala it’s a sign of trust. Almost like saying I love your insecurities because they make you, you. This is one way to do it, but I usually found myself talking about high school for three hours when Jess and I validated our insecurities.
My friend Kaitlyn has a high-energy, adventure-seeking, variety-needing personality. Her way of playing is putting herself in new environments. In Guatemala that would mean going to every restaurant and street-food vendor, putting ourselves on the sides of volcanos, and taking every public bus up narrow, mountainous roads at 11pm. Geography, food, and transportation all have different rules in Guatemala, and staying prepared for them was a game in itself.
It seemed unrealistic to write an essay about tennis, a game I never played in Guatemala, and tie it to my experience there. But playing tennis is just understanding the rules well enough to no longer be confined to them. My entire Peace Corps experience was learning a new set of rules and then bending, pushing, and stretching them. In life, Maggie, Jess, Kaitlyn, and I view the rules in similar ways, and I think that is why we are friends.